Question by PartyAllDay23: Should I help her, or just not care and move on?
I’m 16..

So, I used to be good friends with this girl…we aren’t friends anymore because a series of events (long story), but I said something about the people on fox news being “idiots” and she was I like, “don’t talk to me like that, I wasn’t raised that way.” I wanted to laugh and I had an AMAZING COUNTER (you will see what I’m talking about in a second)…but I always win arguments, and I always do a lot of damage so I just sort of took it easy. I was like, “You should stop complaining about words like idiot. We are juniors in high school not pre-schoolers.” And then we got in this big argument with her saying I was not “raised right” and I just let her go on…because I had a lot of good counters, all of which would do a lot of damage…but in the inside I knew I was winnning…so thats all that mattered. So, she told me that I should stop acting like a “p****” and that she wouldn’t talk to me again unless I apologized. I told her, that she can forget it. She dissed me and wanted ME to apologize. I just told her that I wanted an apology from her. When I’m wrong in an argument I always apologize within a few days, but she never did. This was in July.

I used to always talk to her last year, and everything, but I sort of dissociated myself with the rest of the world because me and her were trying to focus on fixing the damage we did with our grades freshman year. This year, I’m a junior and I’m graduating early…I’ve made alot of new friends (practically everyone in every single one of my classes)…and she’s in like 3 of my classes and it’s really awkward. She always sits by herself and looks kind of depressed. Her facebook statuses and everything is also very depressing…and I sort of feel bad for her..because even though I’m angry and sort of defriended her (or she defriended me really), I still feel bad that she is lonely. Also, freshman year (this is the comeback), she used to do drugs (which is why I don’t understand how I wasn’t raised right for calling fox news “idiots” but you did drugs…and she said that she only did it a “few times”). And she could practically point out 100 pills on the internet and tell me the effect of each one. She use to always complain about her heart hurting last year too…and I use to get mad at her because she would take all of these weird supplements to loose weight (she’s not fat), and other stuff and I thought that was directly associated with her chest pain. She also had problems with concentration. She use to always doze off.

And now that she is lonely it feels that she has been like, taking new stuff. She posted something on her profile the other day called “purple drank” (which is illegal…and has prescription grade medications in it)…and I’m like, WTH is your problem?!! I was going to go talk to her like a month or two ago..tell her that I wanted to be friends..not good friends but at least talk to each other every now and then…but then she posted a status on facebook (while I was thinking about approaching her): “It makes me f****** angry when I see your face. I want to be happy is that too much to ask for?” And I’m sure that was meant for me. In my head I was like laughing, “Okay, F you. Live your lonely life. I won’t help you.” But should I? I would be devastated if something did happen. Like depression/loneliness plus the use of this purple drank stuff….what if it gets worst? (and I know she’s lonely/depressed not only because I can see it, also because one of her friends told me….and her friend also said that she was trying to get her to try the purple drank stuff.)

What do you think I should do?
Well she’s not really my friend, but okay. :/

Best answer:

Answer by CLT787
Tough love. Honestly I’d try to talk to someone else–someone who can get things done. Your friend may not be too happy, but it’s the right thing to do

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