Family Drug Problem What to Do?
Question by Mommy2Be: Family drug problem what to do?
ok when I was 12 I started doing drugs because I found out my parents were doing them adn thet wouldnt stop. Finally in November of 2005 my mom got taken to jail and me and my sister were sent to live with my aunt and uncle again. when my mom got out which was in January she was made to do a drug court program. every day she had to call her testing place and go to meetings and court and had to get a job well she did all of that and in january of 2008 she graduated ant me and my sister and family couldnt of been more happier currently my dad is in jail and has been since august of last year it seems the only time my parents get clean is when there IN jail but now me and my sister found out my mom has started the drugs again i have been clean from them for almost 3 years just like my mom i feel like i need to do something now but what if it too early to do saomething now but also I dont wanna wait until it too late plus my sister only 12 and I am gonna be 18 on the 21st of this month.
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Answer by Max
I’m sorry you are going through this, but unfortunately there’s really nothing you can do for your mother. Let her know you are concerned and if she wants help you will do whatever you can, but you really need to take care of yourself and not let her addiction impact you negatively anymore.
Take your sister to some al-anon meetings or al-ateen where you can find a support group for other family members dealing with addiction.
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Oh my… so young, so many problems…
I feel you have a very kind soul and that you’ll live a life of purity. You remind me of a lotus blossom who starts his life as a bud in a mud and then emerges on the surface of the water opening as a beautiful pure white, sacred flower.
I’m sorry about your mother… If she hasn’t learned this time… it’s hard. But you must focus on your life now. Finish school. Find a good job. Spend time with nice and supportive people. Volunteer and do some charity work. It will make you feel more powerful, confident and compassionate.
Be a good example for your sister.
If your mother gets well…good. But it’s her choice.
Please focus on your life.
I recommend the book Women who love too much by Robin Norwood.
Here’s some additional inspiration:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1GKGWJbE8
Blessings and hugs.
Are you living with you mother now? You are old enough, and experienced enough, to know right from wrong. Your 12 yo sister is at a very influential age-the age you started doing drugs because of your parents. If she, or even you, are around anyone currently using drugs it will only lead you down the wrong path. You, as an ex-addict and you sister cannot be around another addict. It just won’t work. Even if you think you are strong enough to ignore and survive this situation. Your mother needs to know this. She needs to know that as long as she uses drugs you and your sister cannot be there for her. Perhaps your aunt and uncle can step in to help. But, you must stay clear and make it clear to your mother that she must make a choice between her family and drugs.
Max is right, you have got to take care of yourself and sister and let your parents know you will not fall into their trap of doom. Search all the possible resources in your area. The school counselor, the public health department, any kind of community “crisis hotline”, your city/county social services dept. Look and keep looking until you can find help to improve your living situation (?foster family or other family you can live with), and a good counselor that will help you and your sister understand the addiction process and how to avoid it. Best of luck to you!