Why Am I Still Very Worried About My Boyfriend? Please Help?
Question by M.Lizz: Why am I still very worried about my boyfriend? Please help?
Bfs parents kicked him out last Friday over money dispute, he stayed at my house from then until Monday afternoon. He left Monday attempting to go home and his phone was off, he had been using mine. Nobody had any way of contacting him and he has a bit of a substance problem. (he’s checking into a methadone clinic soon) a friend of his had called me late last night and expressed how worried he was and we talked for a bit and then he said he’d ring his house in the morning (I don’t have his parents house number). So sometime around 1 pm he messages me on facebook to say he’s okay, alive and well and thanked me for giving him a place to stay. The thing that strikes me as odd is he called me and his friend from a pay phone after he left my house yet he didn’t call us when he got home and then all day yesterday his Facebook said “online” or “idle” on the chat icons (the blue crescent moon and the online green dot). Yet he didn’t like any statuses or make any and he didn’t read the message I sent him after he left until today yet his profile said he was online. Why am I still worried that something happened to him between the days he left my house?
We’ve been dating for over a year now. I didn’t ask any negative opinions about his addiction, I asked a question. Anything negative will get reported. So, I’d appreciate it if any and all negative comments be kept to yourself. and those of you who aren’t on here to judge people, thank you. 🙂
Best answer:
Answer by VintageGurl
If I were you I would try to get him the help he needs…even if he fusses about it. He might be plotting to hurt himself….you never know. I would try to get in contact with his folks and express that you are worried about him.
The local police can do a welfare check on him.
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Im not trying to negative. Just real. I have had a substance problem in the past. For 3 years. I maintained 1 main girl that whole time. She knew about my problem but always gave me food, or a place to stay and i spent a majority of my time with her at her house. NOW I also have a crazy f*cked up relationship with my parents and when I would get kicked out I would go stay with her. I also associated myself with a TON of people and I always had more then one girl. I finally got clean and came clean to my gf and told her everything I have done and apologized. She WILL not talk to me even 5 years later. I cheated on her almost everyday and now that Im sober Im disgusted. BUT when i was on pills I didnt care. I was a very selfish person and broke that poor girls heart into 1 million peices. Im not saying that this is what your dude is doing but don’t put it past him. Drugs will make you do crazy things. good luck P.S. I also told my girl I would get help everytime she would talk about my addiction just to shut her up. So if he truly isn’t getting help its a lost cause.